Brave transgender girl returns to school as a boy after trading dresses for dinosaurs and curls for comic books
Meet the brave transgender girl who returned to school as a boy after trading her dresses for dinosaurs and curls for comic books.
Shanice Oliver, from Skegness, Lincolnshire, was six years old when she first told her mum that she hated her long hair and girly dresses because she was a boy.
Even when she was younger, mum-of-two Leanne, 31, noticed he would never play with girls stuff and always preferred dinosaurs, Lego and skateboards.
As he grew older he hated wearing dresses and his mid-length locks, even begging his mum to let him wear a suit instead of a bridesmaids dress to her sister’s wedding.
He finally broke down in tears two years ago explaining that he hated his life because he was a girl on the outside but a boy inside two years ago.
Now 12 he’s called Shane, has cut his hair and two months ago returned to school in male clothing to celebrate starting his new life as a boy.
Other than one cruel comment that Shane was a ‘he-she’ which was dealt with quickly by his school, Shane’s schoolmates have fully supported his transition.
Leanne, a barmaid, said: “When Shanice broke down in tears and told me she hated her life and that she was born a female but she knew she wasn’t a girl – it broke my heart.
“Even while growing up she always preferred boys clothing and wouldn’t play with girls stuff, she preferred skateboards and anything to do with army or Lego.
“Once Shanice was able to tell me her secret that she was born in the wrong body I could see the relief from her face, she was so miserable before.
“He decided to keep part of his old name, when he was born I named him Shanice, now he’s Shane.
“He told me he wanted to cut off his long hair and that he’d only wear dresses to make me happy and deep down he absolutely hated it because he felt like he was acting.
“Even when my sister was getting married I remember him begging me to wear a suit to the wedding but we thought he was just being moody – despite looking beautiful in the dress he hated it.
“He was so upset it was hard to watch, I couldn’t stand to see him unhappy anymore and knew my daughter was now my son.
“He used to have long hair too but was never happy about it and before I always had to force Shanice to smile, but since having cutting his hair and living as a boy he’s been a smiling ray of sunshine.
“His confidence has improved so much more now, before he was terribly shy but now he’s bold and proud.
“He’s been living as a male for two months now and even at school her friends have really been supportive.
“The only problem we had was when one child called Shane a ‘he-she’, but he got into trouble straight away and was given lessons on homophobia, since then it’s been brilliant.
“I’ve always brought up my kids to be proud of who they are and not to care about what other people think, now I know that Shane is doing that.
“Shane’s happy all the time, he’s always messing around and dancing in the middle of the shopping aisles – he can now live how he wants.”
After Shane told his mother he wanted to live as a boy, the family let him cut his hair and he’s been attending school in male clothing for two months.
More recently Leanne redecorated the room he shares with his sister replacing the pink with comic book-themed décor.
Leanne said: “Shane used to have a pink room before but he hated it, so now we’ve just finished covering it in Marvel wallpaper and he has lots dinosaurs and boy toys in there.
“Even before becoming Shane he hated the colour pink because he felt it was too girly and used to say it felt like he was walking into a Barbie house.”
Shane is currently receiving counselling and will be referred to Children and Adult Mental Health Services later this year where he will be able to discuss future plans.
Leanne said: “A lot people thought Shane would grow out of wanting to be a boy, but he’s been the same since he was six.
“At first I was a little worried too that he may change his mind about living as a boy, but he knows who he is and as long as he’s happy that’s all that matters.”
The Tavistock Clinic have reported that each year the number of trans people referred to the clinic has increased by 50% each year.
Figures from a 2007 report show that 34% of trans people have considered suicide before receiving professional assessment and support.
Shane said: “It been much better since I went back to school as Shane, all of my friends have been really supportive.
“Most of my classmates understood why I came back to school as a boy and with the others I helped to explain it to them in a different way.
“I told them I was meant to be a boy but I came out as a girl, so I was born as the wrong person.”